Edmond Family Counseling is sponsoring its third girls group helping girls make better choices March 25.
The group meets six Tuesdays in a row with five sessions devoted to girls, who are in middle school through high school.
“The sessions will change how your daughter looks at friends, phones, boys, sports and school,” said Quinton Ellis, one of the leaders. “We meet from 5-6 p.m. each Tuesday starting March 25. To register, call 341-3554.”
The group will discuss during Session 1: Girl V. Themselves; Session 2: Girl v. Technology; Session 3 : Girl v. Guys; Session 4: Girl v. Girls; and Session 5: That’s a Wrap!
“The Girl Strong girls group is for teenage girls helping them make good choices,” said Kathy Matthews with Edmond Family Counseling.
The sessions are a way to get the girls to think ahead, she said.
“We like to get the girls to support each other and set standards and goals before acting so when something does happen they aren’t having to react.”
Ellis said he wants to empower the girls and get them to think about things before engaging in an activity.
“One of the things we do is ask them to build a blueprint of a boyfriend and get an idea of what they are looking for,” Ellis said. “Without a blueprint a girl will think that whoever is there paying attention to them is what they want.”
Ellis said girls are so accustomed to reaching out to the boys, and they want the girls to say, “Hey, these are the kind of guys I am looking for.”
Each group is made up of five to eight girls.
“There is a specific dynamic you get in a group of this size,” Ellis said. “This is a good number for the group to grasp what we are doing, minimize the amount of drama the girls face and give them a realistic framework for relationships.”
Ellis added there is not a lot of incentives for boys to up their game because girls have become highly aggressive.
“One of the young girls from the first group will be repeating the sessions,” Ellis said. “She enjoyed the first time so much she wanted to come back.”
Ellis said some of the things they we will be talking about will change the girls’ behavior and hopefully they will change other girls’ behavior.
“If you can get enough girls that cannot be influenced (down a negative path) they will influence other girls who will in turn influence the boys,” Ellis said.
“Girls have the most incentive because they take the most risks and they face the most consequences,” Ellis said.
Ellis and Sheila Stinnett are in charge of the sessions and are both licensed professional counselors.
Ellis said there is room for a lot of regret in middle school and high school.
“I would find it hard if I had a girl heading into middle school politics and social dynamics,” Ellis said. “There is so much pain and regret in middle school and high school and these sessions help minimize the things that can cause these feelings.
“We want the girls to think of themselves as being on a team,” Ellis said.
The class will meet at 5 p.m. each Tuesday at Edmond Family Counseling, 1251 N. Broadway, Ste. C, and the cost is $150.
FOR MORE information about Girl Strong, go to www.edmondfamilycounseling.org or to register call 341-3554.