The Edmond Sun

Opinion

December 25, 2012

Why I taught my 13-year-old daughter to shoot

WASHINGTON, D.C. — A few years ago, I taught my 13-year-old daughter to shoot. She had asked to learn, so we took my brother's single-shot .22 rifle out in the woods, set a beer can against a stump and began plinking away.

She had already been taught, as I had been from the age of 6, about handling guns safely, never pointing them at anyone, shooting only in a safe area and so on. What we were concentrating on now was marksmanship: learning to sight on the target, exhale half a breath and squeeze the trigger s-l-o-w-l-y. One shot at a time.

Hunting and target shooting, as generations of Americans used to be told, are not about releasing one's emotions and physical tension with guns, but about mastering them in order to steady the hand and shoot accurately. Schools and summer camps once promoted marksmanship for this reason, as an exercise in self-discipline. This kind of instruction declined in the 1960s, but it used to be as valued and routine a part of growing up as learning to swim.

My daughter knew much of this intuitively. Her corporate-executive aunt shot pheasants in Texas. Her oceanographer mother, who had hunted with her own father as a girl, was a capable wing shot. Her paternal grandfather had led the rifle team at the U.S. Naval Academy and later served as a coach of the U.S. Olympic rifle team. She occasionally wore one of his many marksmanship medals as a necklace pendant.

I had been a gun owner all my life, and though I rarely hunted anymore, I prized what proficiency I possessed. For several years, we spent Thanksgiving with friends in the Berkshires. A regular feature was a high-spirited skeet shoot rivalry in a field while the turkey cooked. My daughter said she loved the skeet shoot because it taught her that guns didn't need to be feared. For those who treat them with care and respect, she learned, firearms in the house are not necessarily more lethal than a sharp kitchen knife.

For a boy in the South, where I was raised - and still in much of rural America - acquiring his first shotgun or rifle was a rite of passage. It signified that a young man had been judged responsible by his parents. He had been taught safe gun handling and marksmanship, and had learned enough self-discipline so as not to be a hazard with his firearm to himself or anyone else.

But that culture is under attack, and the changes go well beyond the dramatic urbanization that has made safe shooting environments harder to access. They are about what guns have come to represent, especially to young men. We've witnessed the insidious growth in recent years of films, television programs and video games glorifying the splattering of human bodies with multiple-shot firearms as a sort of badge of manhood - the macho antidote for even petty annoyances. This is not John Wayne and Annie Oakley with quick-draw six-shooters and trick-shot accuracy. It's the delusion of solving problems in human relationships with massive and messy human extinction. It's about filling the air with metal.

There is no escaping it. Even as we were weeping over the slaughter of the innocents in Newtown_ the assault-rifle butchery of those exquisite little children and their teachers - ads on our television sets were urging us to rush to the latest zillion-dollar creations in blow-them-apart moviemaking. Timed to open for Christmas!

Obviously, not everyone who sees a Quentin Tarantino film turns into a mass murderer, but children constantly bombarded with these images - and the incessant, rapid-fire promos for these movies are almost worse than the movies themselves - grow up conditioned not to the idea of handling firearms safely and responsibly but to fantasies about their blow-it-apart potential. And some of the less mentally stable, like Adam Lanza, will act on them.

To prevent another Newtown, we clearly need better policies on mental health, particularly in tracking behavior and personality problems in adolescent boys. We need faster and more thorough background checks for firearm purchasers. We need more reasoned talk from organizations like the NRA about the responsibilities of gun ownership and less shrieking about Second Amendment rights.

After decades of war, more and more guns are designed for rapid fire and high-capacity magazines. These are basically combat weapons and have little or no place on a hunt or non-military target range. No responsible gun owner I know would object to a ban on assault weapons. After all, federal law has banned machine guns for more than half a century. As for the massive magazines, no hunter needs more than five bullets in his rifle at a time, and pump shotguns are already restricted to three-shot magazines. Anyone with a handgun for self-defense who can't accomplish that with eight shots needs to turn in his pistol.

But the problem is not guns alone.

Those who believe it is often tell us that there are more guns per capita in the United States now than ever before. Almost anyone who was alive during the late 1940s will dispute that claim. Virtually every serviceman who served in World War II returned with at least one firearm, and many brought home dozens. If you doubt that, ask a veteran. Most brought back at least their service .45. Many who had been in combat believed that their gun had saved their lives. Where I lived in Virginia in those days, we had dozens of young children on our block, and every family I knew had at least one gun in the house.

Though most were hunting shotguns, there were plenty of handguns as well. But deaths and accidents were rare - so much so that the FBI didn't even keep figures on gun deaths until the 1950s.

When I was at the University of Virginia in the late 1950s, a great many students had guns in their dorm rooms or cars. Most were shotguns used for hunting after class, but handguns were kept, even in bedside tables, as valuable possessions. There were no rules against them because, as amazing as it seems today after massacres such as those at Newtown and Virginia Tech, I never heard - before, during or after my four years there - of any gun at the university used or even displayed as a weapon. We drank as much and had as many fights then as young men do now, but to have produced a weapon to settle one would have been considered both appalling and unmanly. It was just unthinkable.

 The biggest change is not in the availability of guns but in the culture that surrounds them.

Let's suppose some of those Hollywood superstars who have made mega-millions from splatter-shot movies held a news conference and announced that they wouldn't do it anymore. Tom Cruise, Sylvester Stallone, Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt and others have more than just influence: If they turned down gratuitously violent films, producers couldn't raise money to make them. Many of these stars have been active politically - some self-righteously, some earnestly - in save-the-world efforts. Why not ask them to save our world? Isn't it worth a try?

A current ad campaign for the very gun - complete with an extended magazine - used to slaughter the children of Newtown touts the Bushmaster as a way to earn "Your Man Card." Suppose these movie celebrities starred in ads emphasizing that no gun makes a man - it only requires that he learn safety, discipline and restraint. Suppose even NRA spokesmen called for less fantasy gun violence on screens and noted that the real badge of manhood is what one doesn't do with a gun. We need an onslaught of such ads.

This is especially important in urban areas, where high-capacity handguns in particular are all too available, regardless of any laws, and only social pressure - fueled by the repeated sight of small coffins and paralyzed victims - can make a permanent dent in a macho street culture of firearm predation.

That day in Louisiana when I was teaching my daughter to shoot, a male cousin her age heard the shots, wandered by and asked if he could shoot, too. When I welcomed him to do so, he returned with his own rifle. I tried to ignore my discomfort with its assault-rifle appearance and gave him the same instructions I'd given my daughter - take careful aim, squeeze the trigger slowly and concentrate on hitting the beer can with just one shot. Then I gave him several cartridges.

He wanted nothing to do with marksmanship. He began firing from the hip as fast as he could. He was playing Rambo. He wanted to fill the air with metal.

That was the end of our shooting that day.

               

Ringle is a former Washington Post essayist and cultural critic. He lives in Washington.

 

1
Text Only
Opinion
  • POINT/COUNTERPOINT: Recipe for education success

    Now that Oklahoma has repealed the “Common Core” standards for K-12 education, the focus shifts to the creation of Oklahoma-based standards. This process is extremely important because the performance of many Oklahoma students reveals that often the status quo in K-12 education in Oklahoma has been a recipe for mediocrity and even failure.

    July 12, 2014 1 Story

  • POINT/COUNTERPOINT: 5 key ingredients necessary for state’s education standards

    In the coming weeks and months state leaders, educators and parents will be discussing (and hopefully developing) new state education standards. This discussion has immense implications on the quality of education in Oklahoma, and the future prosperity of its residents.

    July 12, 2014 1 Story

  • Hinkle, Mike 2011 copy.jpg HEY HINK: Border crisis shows nation’s unforgivable unwillingness to act

    After years of unforgiveable neglect, the festering illness on America’s southern border has erupted into a full-blown crisis. Thousands of vulnerable children are being used as pawns in a cynical, multifaceted game where unscrupulous powers maneuver behind the scenes to exploit them for money, political advantage and soulless ideology. Our government is responding with the precision, speed and effectiveness of the victim of a stun grenade.
    We may have our doubts, but for the moment, let’s credit the rehearsed explanation we’re getting: These children are fleeing violence of their home countries in Central and South America. Let’s assume Mexico is either powerless to stop the flood, or has a credible explanation for why it won’t.

    July 11, 2014 1 Photo

  • AGAINST THE GRAIN: Author’s account of Johannesburg features growing pains

    American journalist Douglas Foster wrote in “After Mandela, The Struggle For Equality in Post- Apartheid South Africa” of the City of Johannesburg in South Africa that “It does not have a humble bone in its body.” And Johannesburg native Mark Gevisser recently has authored a memoir titled, “Lost And Found In Johannesburg” in which he gives some insight into the civic pride of that city.

    July 8, 2014

  • Pittsburgh Post-Gazette: A robust armed force for Japan could be a plus for the U.S.

    Japan, changing course from its post-1945 posture of pacificism, is turning toward assuming a more vigorous military posture.

    July 8, 2014

  • Oklahoma’s iron triangle resists educational choice

    Survey data continually show that Oklahomans favor policies that give parents more educational options. However, enacting those policies has proven to be difficult. A simple metaphor can help explain why.

    July 7, 2014

  • Pittsburgh Post-Gazette: Boehner’s lawsuit against Obama is a bad move

    Most Americans would agree that this nation has too much partisanship and too many lawsuits. In announcing recently that he will seek legislation for the House of Representatives to sue President Barack Obama, Speaker John Boehner embraces a double dose of negativity.

    July 7, 2014

  • Rise of regional government may prove taxing

    I recently have written about bills from the last legislative session, which mostly escape wide public purview but contain far-reaching policy. The news has been mostly positive as I have either described harmful bills that were defeated, or good policy that won approval.
    Now for some bad news.

    July 7, 2014

  • HEY HINK: Dissenters from all sides should read Hobby Lobby ruling fully before judging

    This May, the Crown Publishing Group published Timothy Geithner’s book, “Stress Test,” which covers some aspects of his tenure as Secretary of the Treasury in the Obama administration. One episode he covers relates to the prep he received from Dan Pfeiffer prior to Geithner’s appearance on a series of Sunday TV talk shows. At the time, Pfeiffer was President Obama’s senior advisor.

    July 3, 2014

  • The American way of war: It may surprise you

    When you study how the U.S. goes to war, there is a prevalent though not perfect pattern. The triggering event is often a sudden crisis that galvanizes popular opinion and becomes the immediate occasion for military intervention but subsequently is exposed as a misguided perception or outright fabrication.

    July 3, 2014

Poll

U.S. Senate candidates Randy Brogdon, U.S. Rep. James Lankford and state Rep. T.W. Shannon recently discussed their views about the Federal Reserve and its monetary policies at a forum. All three called for an audit of the banking institution. Do you agree?

Yes, there should be an audit of the Federal Reserve
No, an audit is not necessary
Undecided
     View Results